Are you getting enough friend time to fill your cup?
I’m not.
I really am not.
Are you?
Recently, I got 2 precious days with one of my long-time best friends on the planet. I am talking Grade 3 timing here. We shut off the world, and did what we did best, whatever we wanted! Whoo hooo!
We played, we ate, we hot-tub-cocktailed, we stayed in our PJs until the afternoon, we shopped, we shared vulnerable emotions, and we giggled through the entire 48-hours together.
The 48-hours of time together seemed to have been on fast forward as poof – it was over. No rewind button to be found.
I was left wanting more, more and more.
It is a no-brainer that when you spend time with your people that lift you up, your ‘living lively” becomes on fire. 🔥
💙The ideas that may be rolling around in your head for months now seem like the best thing in the world (your friends really can make you feel like a genius!)
💙Your sides good-ache from all that belly laughing that makes your spirit dance happy.
💙The goofy carefree moments you experience together become future conversation starters for years to come and really — you just feel dang good!
I just want more of all of that pretty please.
Not only for myself, but for everyone. 🌍
But, at 50-something, grabbing that friend time seems harder and harder to book in the calendar and get into action. I have already given up on any last minute “hey wanna” or I don’t dare consider a good ol “pop in”.
I had assumed (something about an ass in there) that in the later years of life, my friends would practically be living with me as all of our responsibilities would be well under control and we would have lots of time to play.
Why is this not happening? Well, I reflect this.
⭐A lot of my people are in big careers and they are now the senior pros working a lot of hours or in businesses hustling all they got to the retirement finish line.
⭐The over-the-top adorable grandkids have arrived.
⭐Taking care of aging parents is a real thing.
⭐50-somethings, enter a lot of sleepless nights, lack of energy, everything hurt zones and laying low seems more attractive at times than a night out dancing in your friend’s living room cranking AC/DC’s Thunderstruck. What the? I know, I know.
⭐And maybe we just don’t feel as good about ourselves when we look in a mirror than we did 10 years ago? They really have to invent an anti sagging, anti wrinkle mirror. Anyone?
Well, I reflect this too.
Life is short. Oh yes, you knew that was coming. The “I will have time then”, or “I will make time for that later” is simply not going to work.
Your friend time is one of the best top-secret sauces to living lively.
Your people boost your mood, make you feel confident, improve your self-esteem, help you figure out the tough stuff and ‘get you’.
And you do the same for them. Wins all around, making the world a better place for all.
With all your growing responsibility and life noise, how can you not make time for that on the regular?
And if I haven’t given you enough hmmmm’s to inspire you to spend more time with your friends, check out this science that tells you that people with poor-quality friendships are twice as likely to die prematurely – whoa!
The Science of Friendship
Happy more friend playtime and filling that ‘living lively’ cup to the brim. Treena x