Do you ever think, am I fun? And feel a tiny wave of panic roll in? Last week, I met a smart, bold, passionate, wildly driven woman. We were chatting about our businesses and getting to know each otherās passions. She has a podcast Iāve been listening to called Strong Like a Girl, and I was curious about how women are defining strength these days. Her personality was serious. She took her work seriously. And she talked very seriously. When I started talking about my podcastālearning all things how to have more funāshe got even more serious. She said, āI donāt even know if Iām fun anymore.ā Then followed with, āI actually donāt think I am fun.ā And in that serious tone, there was a little bit of worry sprinkled in. This stopped me cold in my tracksāthe loss-of-words kind (and you know, for me, thatās rare). I assured her that fun is fully retrainable and not to worry. I got you. ā¤ļø But I could still see her brow furrowing as she quietly contemplated her āno-fun zone.ā We talked about how not being fun could happen to a person. Was it life? Was it biology? Was it a mix of both? That conversation got me thinking: Is there a āfun geneā weāre biologically born withāor, by some life lottery, arenāt born with? Like the happiness gene? Positive psychology researcher Sonja Lyubomirskyāoften referenced through the āhappiness pieā suggest: ~40% of happiness is influenced by genetics ~10% by life circumstances ~50% by intentional activities and habits So naturally, I went looking for the data on a fun gene. And hereās what the research actually shows: There is no single āfun gene.ā But there is a biological play system wired into every human nervous system. Unlike happinessāwhich research suggests is partly genetically setāfun is primarily behavior-based and highly trainable at any age. Play and fun activate the brainās reward, bonding, and stress-regulation systems (dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins), creating immediate shifts in mood, connection, and energy (I am actually fist bumping you right now).Ā š You donāt need to be born āfun-wiredā to experience it. You just need to practice it. And if happiness is partly genetic and partly circumstantial⦠fun becomes the best tool we have (more fist bumping).Ā Which means: You donāt need the right personality You donāt need the right life You donāt need perfect conditions You just need to start building that fun muscleāusing the small, doable fun habits Iāve been throwing your way. A new fun habit Iāve been practicing lately… Iāve been trying oh so hard to stick to a low-spend January and February after the holidays. I have been treating Saturday (or whatever day you get off) like a holiday.Ā Ā A low-to-no-cost holiday. No work. No chores. No errands. No responsibilities. Just a fun, playful, holiday-style day. I look forward to planning it all week. I aim to do something a little out of the ordinary. The day is filled with my kind of fun. And by Sunday, Iām floating in my aprĆØs-holiday high (minus the tan). This Saturday Holiday Play Day habit? Itās sticking. Iāll leave you with this: even if youāve ignored fun for days, months, or years⦠fun is loyal. Itās always waiting for you. Yours in fun spirit, Treena x Ps. If you or someone you know needs help finding more fun in their lives, book me a call to see if my Fun Formula Program teaching fun habits can work for you. *************************************************************************** RECENTLY ON THE FINDING FUN EXPERIMENT PODCAST:Learn why you need to STOP saving your life for later. So many adults are quietly saving their joy, fun, and aliveness for āsomedayāā¦Ā Ā After the kids grow up.Ā After work slows down. After the next milestone. In this Laugh to Death episode, I sit down with mortality mindset expert Jodi Wellman for a powerful, funny, and perspective-shifting conversation on why waiting to live is one of the biggest traps of adulthood. LISTEN HERE Ā |
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